Dear Kate the Midwife,
I have high BMI/haven't lost "the baby weight" from my last pregnancy/have been told I am overweight - can I still have a home birth?
Can there be negative side effects to carrying more weight than what our body needs?
When I sit with someone for the first time, when we are feeling each other out and wondering whether or not we're a good fit for one another, BMI is not at the forefront of my mind. No. Want to know what I care a heck of a lot more about? Here it goes...
Do you choose to fuel your body with good, real food?
Do you sleep like a champ (or, at least make every effort to)?
Now, I know (I know) that a straight-8 is not always obtainable when you have an itty-bit(s) at home (or when you're a midwife who is constantly invited to awesome all-night birthday parties). On the nights, or in the seasons of life, when your sleep is less-than-optimal, do you make finding extra rest a priority? Do you "sleep when the baby sleeps"? Do you have mandatory "rest time" in your home? Do you take a portion of your lunch break at work to close your eyes? Do you say "NO" to the extra things - do you set up boundaries with the people in your life in a way that allows for regular sleep?
Do. You. Move?
But Kate, it's expensive!
Uh, no. Walking is free.
But Kate, it's really hard to get a workout in when you have kids!
If you are averse to the word "workout" *fist bump*, change your mindset around what movement means. Have you noticed how much our kids move in a single day - heck, in a single minute?? Move your body with your kiddos. You don't have to be fancy - play a game of "What Animal Am I?", walk to the library instead of driving, or play a game of Chase in the backyard (you get the idea).
But Kate, WINTER.
That's what coats and hats and gloves are for. Move.
But Kate, I'm tired.
Yep. Me too. I feel ya'. Work, kids, errands, second jobs, trying to keep your home clean - I understand. Move, anyway. You might even find that you have more energy after a few weeks of daily movement.
But Kate, it's boring.
Make it fun! Go do something active with a friend, turn on some tunes, laugh with your partner and/or your kiddos or come join me on a hike, sometime!
Okay... where do I start?
My personal favorites (for myself and for pregnant people):
ALWAYS outside. The outdoors are so freaking restorative for our brains and spirits.
I really have to be in the mood, both in mindset and in my checkbook for this one, but anytime I go I'm glad I did.
(Psst! Candlelight yoga feels insanely decadent and so, so lovely.)
I don't do this in a "normal" way - I prefer pretending to be a mermaid (What? It's fun!) or playing a good game of water tag, to the breast stroke.
I'm new to this, but love it so far - I purchased a roller and a book and have been watching youtube videos to make sure I'm "doing it right".
I know Amber would be bummed if I didn't mention dry-brushing and massage, while talking about moving your body. Ask her about it - she'll totally nerd-out with you on these topics.